I need a hug!!!!

Jadoo ki jappi as you might recall it and it works. It’s a language in its own and there are different ways people use it to communicate what they want the feel for the other person without saying it.

There is this tight hug were you a person so tight either you want them to suffocate and never hug you again or you love them so much that in that moment you want to just reassure yourself that no matter what you have something solid. I had such kind of hugs in two cases, when you have a kid around and you just want to crush them because they are so cute and you just want to make that connection with them and to tell them how much you love them, I do this to my nephews and they get irritated after a while and run away you can’t control the reaction of a hug after all. Second are the cases when you are leaving/meeting your dear friends or meeting/leaving your parents after. The second case happens with everyone you hug them so tightly that it gives you relief and repayment of all the days that you haven’t been with them and how much have you missed them. It’s strange how they happen you just hold on to each other and then it ends with an even tighter hug but only for a moment and then that moment speaks it all that how much you mean to that person and yes you have made a difference to the life of a person.

Then there is this side way huge. This type of huge usually happens when you are not very sure if the other person wants to hug you. Situations could be you greet your friend with a hug everyday in the college (guy and girl) and then you visit them in their home. You don’t know if huge are acceptable ( usually not) and then you have not discussed the greeting details with your friend you when you meet them you usually side hug them because you are confused what to do and handshakes are the worst with such friends. Next situation could be like when you generally go hugging people and the person you are trying to hug is not accepting one. So you end up in a strange hug situation so you just move along the side of the person, no neck is involved in this interaction. You end up embarrassing yourself and the person too. This type of hug is usually reassuring type were in you are saying I am glad to see you, I wish I could do it more personally but this is the best we can do right now and in the second case it’s just pure embarrassment.

Then there is this office/corporate huge where in you pat on each other shoulders saying well done. These are least of the affectionate ones. It’s like corporate language with there is not much of an emotion involved but more of a statement to be made. Guys do it more often than girls. It’s also accompanied with a hand shake so that you don’t get too close.

Back huge or should I say bear hug. It is very intimate and it gives a sense of security and comfort. You are protective about that person (in a good way) and you just want them to know that you are there for them no matter what. I have no experience in this type of hug so cannot write much. There could be some weird consequences of this like if the person is someone who gets scared easily is going to shout and either one of you are going to get a heart attack. Another one could be if they are into self defence you going to get kicked in your crouch then with another you will on the floor so this hug comes with its own reactions so precaution has to be taken.

Then there is handshake-shoulder touch huge. It’s mostly done buy guys meeting to see a match or a guy get together. You meet the person with a handshake followed by touching of the opposite shoulder and sometimes a tap on the shoulder. It says I am happy to see you here and we are going to have a great time but let’s not be too loud about it or a typical guy lingo let’s not behave like girls. It’s all the way macho. It’s very sophisticated lingo and message delivered in suttle ways. It’s like a hug included in long hand gestures involved in the hand shake.

I am sure there will be many more which I am yet to experience or see. But I believe that it’s more personal and effective way to say it all without saying anything. People cry as soon as they hug someone, some just give you two or three hugs because they just want to reassure them self that it’s not a dream, some will just hug you out of the blue because they just want to say thank you for being there with me, some hug you to say I love you and some hug you because they are sorry. There is a message behind every hug have you decode the one you got today.

P.S. : It’s not like there is a agenda or motive behind each hug, it’s just the unspoken words and emotions that a hug carries with itself.