Naina Catherin Kapoor
“New York duniya ka sabse bada sher, yahan logonkohamesha jaldi rehti hai kaam pe jane ki jaldi.......is shere ne mujhe jeena sikhaya, apne pairon pe khada hona sikhaya, bus pyaar nahi sikha paaya..”
There are many more such dialogues in the movies that I can relate to or situations that I have gone through and that is one of the many reasons I love this movie so much. I can say the dialogue from start to end even today though I have stopped watching it on a daily bases cause I deleted it from my system for some reason and since then I have not got a copy of it.
First time she realises she is in love she calls her only friend “7 baje waters Edge”, she just can’t see the love in Rohits eyes. I used to think the best think that can happen in life is that you falling in love with your best friend as you are so comfortable with each other that even if things don’t work out you can still be friends, but it does not work that way. You can’t even think of saying those words to each other because you don’t want to ruin the friendship.
Aman is dying so he breaks her heart. “Phle pyaar karna nahi janti thi ab bhulana nahi janti”. First love oh you can’t forget the feeling because it’s something you have never experienced before it’s make you feel so-so different. The person you fall in love for the first time it’s very hard to forget that person because they made you feel special, doing something just because they love it, waiting or changing routes so that you get that extra second with them, never ending talks because you never want to stop listening and if you are unlucky to get over the feeling that your first love will never be yours where in you put their feeling above yours.” Kya tum kabhie kisi aur se pyaar kar paogi” I think the first love leaves its trace in your heart it can never completely go away, you will fall in love again but that skip of a heart beat cannot be accounted later in life. Actually I am at a loss of words in explaining this may it’s like when you see a new born he is so delicate, tiny, tender, pink with big-big eyes and you just fall in love with him and you have tears in your eyes and you can never explain how you felt in that moment but that was must been the happiest you ever felt in you life.
“Hansna hai to rohit, rona hai to rohit pyaar karna hai to kisi aur se, tank aa gaya hoon main tumhara dost banke. Kisi bahut hi intelligengt admi ne kaha hai pyaar ka pehla kaam dosti hai and akhri bhi, kadam badao nena rasta apne aap nikal aayega” If are in love or falling in love with your friend then say these words asap otherwise you can get so comfortable with each other that there are no more that special feeling expected from you which you want from the person you love. There is actually a very thin line between the two. “har ladki ye chahati hai ki use apne pati main ek acha dost mile mujhe ache dost main acha paati mil gaya”.
“I love you; I love you very-very much.........” these three words are magical; you say it to anyone you love and just see their face lighten up and specially the one you want to say it the most. It brings me to tears when I see this scene; it just fills you up with emotions of how much he loves her. The best part of the scene is he is reading from Rohits diary which makes it so genuine, straight from the heart even though the rest is made up the first few line itself is filled with those magical words, just melts my heart. If I ever get a chance to say those words I would probably steal the same lines.
It’s just a movies, even I feel so but when unknowingly you see yourself in the character and situations you don’t feel the same. “Mera pehla pyaar lajoji, mera pehla pyaar Lovechand khukreja, mera phela pyaar ...”
Sunday, April 19, 2009
I need a hug!!!!
Jadoo ki jappi as you might recall it and it works. It’s a language in its own and there are different ways people use it to communicate what they want the feel for the other person without saying it.
There is this tight hug were you a person so tight either you want them to suffocate and never hug you again or you love them so much that in that moment you want to just reassure yourself that no matter what you have something solid. I had such kind of hugs in two cases, when you have a kid around and you just want to crush them because they are so cute and you just want to make that connection with them and to tell them how much you love them, I do this to my nephews and they get irritated after a while and run away you can’t control the reaction of a hug after all. Second are the cases when you are leaving/meeting your dear friends or meeting/leaving your parents after. The second case happens with everyone you hug them so tightly that it gives you relief and repayment of all the days that you haven’t been with them and how much have you missed them. It’s strange how they happen you just hold on to each other and then it ends with an even tighter hug but only for a moment and then that moment speaks it all that how much you mean to that person and yes you have made a difference to the life of a person.
Then there is this side way huge. This type of huge usually happens when you are not very sure if the other person wants to hug you. Situations could be you greet your friend with a hug everyday in the college (guy and girl) and then you visit them in their home. You don’t know if huge are acceptable ( usually not) and then you have not discussed the greeting details with your friend you when you meet them you usually side hug them because you are confused what to do and handshakes are the worst with such friends. Next situation could be like when you generally go hugging people and the person you are trying to hug is not accepting one. So you end up in a strange hug situation so you just move along the side of the person, no neck is involved in this interaction. You end up embarrassing yourself and the person too. This type of hug is usually reassuring type were in you are saying I am glad to see you, I wish I could do it more personally but this is the best we can do right now and in the second case it’s just pure embarrassment.
Then there is this office/corporate huge where in you pat on each other shoulders saying well done. These are least of the affectionate ones. It’s like corporate language with there is not much of an emotion involved but more of a statement to be made. Guys do it more often than girls. It’s also accompanied with a hand shake so that you don’t get too close.
Back huge or should I say bear hug. It is very intimate and it gives a sense of security and comfort. You are protective about that person (in a good way) and you just want them to know that you are there for them no matter what. I have no experience in this type of hug so cannot write much. There could be some weird consequences of this like if the person is someone who gets scared easily is going to shout and either one of you are going to get a heart attack. Another one could be if they are into self defence you going to get kicked in your crouch then with another you will on the floor so this hug comes with its own reactions so precaution has to be taken.
Then there is handshake-shoulder touch huge. It’s mostly done buy guys meeting to see a match or a guy get together. You meet the person with a handshake followed by touching of the opposite shoulder and sometimes a tap on the shoulder. It says I am happy to see you here and we are going to have a great time but let’s not be too loud about it or a typical guy lingo let’s not behave like girls. It’s all the way macho. It’s very sophisticated lingo and message delivered in suttle ways. It’s like a hug included in long hand gestures involved in the hand shake.
I am sure there will be many more which I am yet to experience or see. But I believe that it’s more personal and effective way to say it all without saying anything. People cry as soon as they hug someone, some just give you two or three hugs because they just want to reassure them self that it’s not a dream, some will just hug you out of the blue because they just want to say thank you for being there with me, some hug you to say I love you and some hug you because they are sorry. There is a message behind every hug have you decode the one you got today.
P.S. : It’s not like there is a agenda or motive behind each hug, it’s just the unspoken words and emotions that a hug carries with itself.
Jadoo ki jappi as you might recall it and it works. It’s a language in its own and there are different ways people use it to communicate what they want the feel for the other person without saying it.
There is this tight hug were you a person so tight either you want them to suffocate and never hug you again or you love them so much that in that moment you want to just reassure yourself that no matter what you have something solid. I had such kind of hugs in two cases, when you have a kid around and you just want to crush them because they are so cute and you just want to make that connection with them and to tell them how much you love them, I do this to my nephews and they get irritated after a while and run away you can’t control the reaction of a hug after all. Second are the cases when you are leaving/meeting your dear friends or meeting/leaving your parents after. The second case happens with everyone you hug them so tightly that it gives you relief and repayment of all the days that you haven’t been with them and how much have you missed them. It’s strange how they happen you just hold on to each other and then it ends with an even tighter hug but only for a moment and then that moment speaks it all that how much you mean to that person and yes you have made a difference to the life of a person.
Then there is this side way huge. This type of huge usually happens when you are not very sure if the other person wants to hug you. Situations could be you greet your friend with a hug everyday in the college (guy and girl) and then you visit them in their home. You don’t know if huge are acceptable ( usually not) and then you have not discussed the greeting details with your friend you when you meet them you usually side hug them because you are confused what to do and handshakes are the worst with such friends. Next situation could be like when you generally go hugging people and the person you are trying to hug is not accepting one. So you end up in a strange hug situation so you just move along the side of the person, no neck is involved in this interaction. You end up embarrassing yourself and the person too. This type of hug is usually reassuring type were in you are saying I am glad to see you, I wish I could do it more personally but this is the best we can do right now and in the second case it’s just pure embarrassment.
Then there is this office/corporate huge where in you pat on each other shoulders saying well done. These are least of the affectionate ones. It’s like corporate language with there is not much of an emotion involved but more of a statement to be made. Guys do it more often than girls. It’s also accompanied with a hand shake so that you don’t get too close.
Back huge or should I say bear hug. It is very intimate and it gives a sense of security and comfort. You are protective about that person (in a good way) and you just want them to know that you are there for them no matter what. I have no experience in this type of hug so cannot write much. There could be some weird consequences of this like if the person is someone who gets scared easily is going to shout and either one of you are going to get a heart attack. Another one could be if they are into self defence you going to get kicked in your crouch then with another you will on the floor so this hug comes with its own reactions so precaution has to be taken.
Then there is handshake-shoulder touch huge. It’s mostly done buy guys meeting to see a match or a guy get together. You meet the person with a handshake followed by touching of the opposite shoulder and sometimes a tap on the shoulder. It says I am happy to see you here and we are going to have a great time but let’s not be too loud about it or a typical guy lingo let’s not behave like girls. It’s all the way macho. It’s very sophisticated lingo and message delivered in suttle ways. It’s like a hug included in long hand gestures involved in the hand shake.
I am sure there will be many more which I am yet to experience or see. But I believe that it’s more personal and effective way to say it all without saying anything. People cry as soon as they hug someone, some just give you two or three hugs because they just want to reassure them self that it’s not a dream, some will just hug you out of the blue because they just want to say thank you for being there with me, some hug you to say I love you and some hug you because they are sorry. There is a message behind every hug have you decode the one you got today.
P.S. : It’s not like there is a agenda or motive behind each hug, it’s just the unspoken words and emotions that a hug carries with itself.
Delayed in Chennai
Long delay in writing blog, there were a lot of things to write about though but my laptop was at home and could not write them. Thing about writing blog is that till the time I am in that moment the words just flow and easy to write once that moment is gone it becomes difficult to write and recall all.
For starters got placed in Chennai, had a lot of fear moving to Chennai as there were so many stories language problem, food problem, hot weather, etc and the most of it all was that I was having the best time of my entire life in Hyderabad. But had to make a decision and take up the opportunity in
Chennai. To top it all I had to travel on my birthday, this will be another blog entry.
Lost all control when I was in train, saying goodbye was the hardest part and I cried the way I am famous for. It’s just that feeling it was less about moving to out of Hyderabad than the feeling that you are going to miss all that it’s here and why at this time in life you have to go somewhere else. It’s a feeling I guess only those few can understand who has to make that journey.
Been in Chennai for over 3 months now and things seems to be settling in well (more than what I had expected). Auto wala are always a problem any city I guess for a stranger, but the strangest thing is the auto walas here treat everyone equally, they cheat you no matter whether you a new comer or an old residence. Meters don’t run on any of the auto and are just a show piece. Language is not much of a problem either; everyone understands the sign language and most of the people are helpful. House hunting is a difficult task in Chennai, it’s almost life finding a life partner and the option of staying alone does not exists as there are no 1BHK (you might find some advertisements but do check them before moving in).
Some of the funniest things happen when hunting for house, will fill some of them here
Strange requirement:
Malyalee vegetarian, North Indian Hindi speaking, Brahmin family only even if you are single Brahmin don’t call, guy with good habits.
Brokers:
“First you come” this is what they say when you call up a broker. No matter what your requirement is they say they have houses for all requirements and when you reach their office they don’t.
Ads:
Don’t trust the ads they all are written to fit your requirement. But when you visit the place the dreams get shattered as seen as you try entering the place.
Roommates:
Any number of people can stay in any number of rooms in a house. As long as the owner gets the rent he is least bothered especially in apartments. Halls are also room in house. No offense for the people being forced to stay this way some times the rent is too high to be paid.
There are many more I have forgotten now as after staying a month in Guest house and then a month at my cousin sister’s house, I finally have a house of my own. Long wait but it’s all worth it. It’s an old bungalow, with our floor and the one above it added later on. My room has those old type windows were in there are four doors on the each window and two doors. And I can see the mangoes loaded tree from my here. Rest of the house is in the same line little dark as during construction they forgot to add more windows. Another best part the beach is just 10 minutes walk from home.
I travel by bus daily to office to and fro and it’s a good experience with at times when I want to rush home and the buses not turn up. You see a lot of Chennai in the buses people commuting to their office already drenched in sweat, school kids with heavy bags and girls with equally heavy flowers on their heads. Conductors don’t move from their place much and the money and destination name for the ticket comes to them through chain of people.
All of these and daily new experiences here and there helps to get to know Chennai. Though it’s been only few days since I have actually started living on my own in Chennai but the experience so far has been good with little problems here and there. I keep rushing back home every third week of the month for a friends reception to friends surprise birthday party to a very long weekend but all this because i love coming here and spending time with friends and family and not that Chennai is bad place.
My more experiences to come in as get to know more, I think it’s also to do with the fact that I know I have to stay here and as I am doing so why not do it with joy and happiness instead of cribbing and complaining. I am sure I will learn new things about this place and people here. Surely it has changed from the 1989 Madras I left to 2009 Chennai when I am back here once again.
Long delay in writing blog, there were a lot of things to write about though but my laptop was at home and could not write them. Thing about writing blog is that till the time I am in that moment the words just flow and easy to write once that moment is gone it becomes difficult to write and recall all.
For starters got placed in Chennai, had a lot of fear moving to Chennai as there were so many stories language problem, food problem, hot weather, etc and the most of it all was that I was having the best time of my entire life in Hyderabad. But had to make a decision and take up the opportunity in
Chennai. To top it all I had to travel on my birthday, this will be another blog entry.
Lost all control when I was in train, saying goodbye was the hardest part and I cried the way I am famous for. It’s just that feeling it was less about moving to out of Hyderabad than the feeling that you are going to miss all that it’s here and why at this time in life you have to go somewhere else. It’s a feeling I guess only those few can understand who has to make that journey.
Been in Chennai for over 3 months now and things seems to be settling in well (more than what I had expected). Auto wala are always a problem any city I guess for a stranger, but the strangest thing is the auto walas here treat everyone equally, they cheat you no matter whether you a new comer or an old residence. Meters don’t run on any of the auto and are just a show piece. Language is not much of a problem either; everyone understands the sign language and most of the people are helpful. House hunting is a difficult task in Chennai, it’s almost life finding a life partner and the option of staying alone does not exists as there are no 1BHK (you might find some advertisements but do check them before moving in).
Some of the funniest things happen when hunting for house, will fill some of them here
Strange requirement:
Malyalee vegetarian, North Indian Hindi speaking, Brahmin family only even if you are single Brahmin don’t call, guy with good habits.
Brokers:
“First you come” this is what they say when you call up a broker. No matter what your requirement is they say they have houses for all requirements and when you reach their office they don’t.
Ads:
Don’t trust the ads they all are written to fit your requirement. But when you visit the place the dreams get shattered as seen as you try entering the place.
Roommates:
Any number of people can stay in any number of rooms in a house. As long as the owner gets the rent he is least bothered especially in apartments. Halls are also room in house. No offense for the people being forced to stay this way some times the rent is too high to be paid.
There are many more I have forgotten now as after staying a month in Guest house and then a month at my cousin sister’s house, I finally have a house of my own. Long wait but it’s all worth it. It’s an old bungalow, with our floor and the one above it added later on. My room has those old type windows were in there are four doors on the each window and two doors. And I can see the mangoes loaded tree from my here. Rest of the house is in the same line little dark as during construction they forgot to add more windows. Another best part the beach is just 10 minutes walk from home.
I travel by bus daily to office to and fro and it’s a good experience with at times when I want to rush home and the buses not turn up. You see a lot of Chennai in the buses people commuting to their office already drenched in sweat, school kids with heavy bags and girls with equally heavy flowers on their heads. Conductors don’t move from their place much and the money and destination name for the ticket comes to them through chain of people.
All of these and daily new experiences here and there helps to get to know Chennai. Though it’s been only few days since I have actually started living on my own in Chennai but the experience so far has been good with little problems here and there. I keep rushing back home every third week of the month for a friends reception to friends surprise birthday party to a very long weekend but all this because i love coming here and spending time with friends and family and not that Chennai is bad place.
My more experiences to come in as get to know more, I think it’s also to do with the fact that I know I have to stay here and as I am doing so why not do it with joy and happiness instead of cribbing and complaining. I am sure I will learn new things about this place and people here. Surely it has changed from the 1989 Madras I left to 2009 Chennai when I am back here once again.
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